What are
your reasons for worrying? Do you think
they worth it?
Worry,
according to Cambridge Dictionary means, “to think about problem or unpleasant
things that might happen in such a way that makes you feel unhappy and
frightened.”
Life is full
of uncertainties. The best we know is the reality of the present. Something
tragic which was never envisaged could happen in the next few seconds. We make efforts,
but virtually none of our efforts is guaranteed a favorable outcome. Due to
life uncertainties, so many people allow themselves to be predisposed to worry.
They worry about everything and as a result lose their peace of mind.
Some give in
to worry due to their past experience of failure. They are uncertain if what happens
in the past could repeat in the future.
One vital
thing you have to know is that uncertainty is part of life. It is also
important to know that worrying has nothing good to contribute to your chances
of getting a favorable outcome. When we worry, our chances of getting
unpleasant outcome are greatly increased.
The aim of
this article is to help you see the reasons why you should discard worry
completely from your mind. You must program your mind with an “auto delete” system such that anytime the thought of worry set into your conscious mind; it
gets deleted as soon as you become aware of it.
Here are the
reasons you need to discard worry:
1. It does not make any difference:
It is good to know that worrying about the future or the outcome of your
efforts will not make any difference. Worry will rather increase the chances of
a negative outcome.
2. Worry is a waste of your mental energy:
Every measure of success requires certain amount of strategic planning and focus. Worry makes it difficult to plan and focus on your desired result.
Instead of focusing your mind on what really matters, your mind begins to oscillate between the possibility of failure and success, thus making your mind to be unstable. Such a state mind will in most cases produce failure rather than success.
The energy that should been directed at planning, focusing and working to actualize your goal is thus wrongly directed at worry, thus wasting your mental energy and creating failure for you. Here is Roy T. Bennett’s advice:
“Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.”
3. Worry is a thief of your peace of mind:
Life is so
short that it doesn’t make any sense to allow worry to have a place in our
minds. When you give in to worry for any reason, you lose your peace of mind.
When you lose your peace of mind, it becomes very difficult to think accurately
and take charge of your life.
Also Read: 8 Strategic Ways to Deal with Self-doubt.
Also Read: 8 Strategic Ways to Deal with Self-doubt.
4. Most of your worries won’t come to pass:
If you can
take a look at your life, and consider certain worries you had in the past, you
will likely find out that most of them didn’t turn out as much as you worried
about them. Worry is a form of assumption about future realities, it is never a
fact. The best thing is never to assume a negative outcome at all.
Regarding
the things we worry about, Calvin Coolidge said,
"if you see ten troubles coming down the road, you can be sure that nine will run into the ditch before they reach you.
5. Everything will definitely come to an end:
If your mind
has always been dominated with worry over the affairs of this world, you need
to consider this last point seriously. Have you ever consider the fact that
everything will come to an end one day? By everything will come to an end, I am
not talking about the Day of Judgment. The point is nothing is permanent in this
world.
An average man is born, go through all the phases of human development
possible for him, fulfills all the major
landmarks the society expects of him, gets old, and dies, and after that
everything about him is forgotten except the legacy he leaves behind. So if you
have been bothering yourself about catching up with the joneses, and living up
to what the society expects of you, you must realize that naked you come into
this world, and naked you shall return.
Death is the
ultimate leveler, everyone is destined to die whether beautiful or ugly, young
or old, rich or poor, everything will end for each of us one day as far as this
world is concern, and it is amazing that none of the many things we worry about
we go with us to the grave beyond. We met them in this world, and we shall
leave them behind in this world.
Final note
The key
point of this article is not to discourage you from making effort to better
your lot as an intelligent human being. It is good for you to strive for
success and maximize your potential. However, in the midst of your striving,
you must realize the futility of worry.
It does not make sense to worry about
anything unless worrying propels you to do something positive about what you
are worrying about, besides that, worry should be discarded at all cost. You
can easily manifest your desire when in a peaceful state of mind than when you
are worrying. Worry makes it impossible or very difficult to achieve your goal.
Over to you
What is your
take on the points raised in this post? Do you think worrying for any reason is
what the mental energy put into it?
Feel free to
share your contribution in the comment section.
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caring.
This is exactly the fact! Worrying will not and can never hasten the happening of an issue but will make it look complicated and impossible. It can also affects one's health if not moderate.
ReplyDeleteHi Pharsh,
DeleteThanks for your contribution to this post.
All good points and I agree with you about what a waste of time and energy is. Still, it's not healthy to bury feelings and emotions so taking some time to acknowledge how you're feeling and why is worthwhile. Journaling is an excellent practice for healing and personal growth. Thanks for the inspiration!
ReplyDeleteHi Marquita,
ReplyDeleteGood to know you are inspired by this post.
I agree with you on the idea of allowing oneself to experience prevailing feelings and emotions taking place in one's consciousness at a given time. However, it also very important to know that when a feeling or an emotion becomes excessive, then it becomes abnormal.
This article was purposely written to help curb the habit of excessive worrying.
Thanks for your contribution.
Hi Taiwo,
ReplyDeleteNeedless worry is a huge waste of time and energy and doesn't solve anything because the only 'thing' there is the 'worry'.
It's smart to have plans for possible problems but after the plans are set, go on with living, right? Good post, thanks,
Edward
Hi Mr Edward,
DeleteI can't agree less with you that worrying is a huge waste of time and energy. Thanks for your contribution.
Great tips for dealing with worrying. I especially love this quote "if you see ten troubles coming down the road, you can be sure that nine will run into the ditch before they reach you."
ReplyDeleteHi Ruth,
DeleteGood to know you love that quote. Thanks for commenting.