|Self-doubt means lack of self-confidence|
Introducing Oladipupo Ajibola, an entrepreneurship blogger who will reveal to you 8 strategic ways you can deal with self-doubt. He believes that if you must succeed in business and life, you must kill self-doubt.
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“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt”- William Shakespeare
Among the much inertia you need to overcome to begin your journey to success is self-doubt. Everyone who is successful today has at one point or the other struggled with self-doubt. What made it possible for them to become successful is the ability to overcome their self-doubt.
There so many people in the world today who have the potential to live a great life, but because of their inability to overcome self-doubt, they end up in the valley of mediocrity.
I have written this post to give you some tips on how you can overcome self-doubt in your quest to live your dream, and I hope it helps.
Self-doubt means lack of self-confidence. It is that feeing you have when you doubt your ability to accomplish a task. If you don't do anything about your self-doubt, it may keep you at a standstill in life. When you are in doubt of your ability or of your chances of succeeding in an endeavour, do the following.
1. Say stop.
The moment when those thoughts starts to suffice, be quick. Stop them in their tracks and don’t give them a chance to grow into a stream of discouraging sentences.
In your mind say something like: No, no, no, we are not going down that road again. The power behind this is that it disrupts the thought pattern and stops the negative thoughts from taking over.
2. Look to the past and awash yourself in the memories.
Be real with yourself and ask yourself:
How many times when I doubted myself or feared something would happen did that negative thing come into reality after I still took action?
No they don’t at least not very often.
Self-doubts are most often just beasts in your head that your mind uses in keeping you from doing what you ought to do, hence keeping you in your comfort zone.
If you look to the past, you’ll see that things have gone quite positively despite those self-doubts you had in those moments, then it becomes easier for you to let go of them or to ignore them and to focus on the more likely positive outcome and to take action.
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3. Talk to someone about it.
When you keep all those negative thoughts in your head that arises from self-doubt, sooner rather than later, it takes a hold of you and becomes your being.
So let them out into the light. Talk to someone close to you about your self-doubts.
Just letting them out and saying them out loud can often help you to hear how exaggerated these thoughts have become. And by talking about those doubts with someone that is supportive you can get a change in perspective.
4. Start keeping a journal.
Keeping a journal can be a helpful habit for many reasons. When it comes to self-doubts it can help you to:
• Keep an accurate record of your life. And help you to remember the positive things, the successes and achievements you’ve had in the past and how you overcame hurdles if you are prone to remembering things with a negative slant.
• Gain clarity more easily. It is often easier to ease fears and doubts and to gain clarity if you have an issue jotted somewhere or in a computer document rather than if you try to go through it all in your mind. By making lists of pros and cons, going through your head and similar events from the past, it becomes easier to find solutions and to see your challenge in a clearer manner.
5. Remember: people don’t care that much about what you do or say.
One of my favorite quotes from Aristotle is ‘’to avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.’’ You shouldn’t care about what people may think or say except you plan doing nothing because no matter what you do, people will always find a fault in it even in the noblest of things.
When you worry about what others may think or say if you do something then self-doubt can quickly become stronger and you get stuck in inaction and in fear.
Remind yourself that no one really cares; they’re also probably trying to put their lives together somehow too.
6. Get a boost of optimism.
Let someone else’s enthusiasm, motivation and constructive optimism flow over to you. Spend some time on books that gives you that. A program that airs every Sunday on inspiration FM from 8.30am to 10am gives me just that and I only deem it fit to
recommend to you, it has helped me with this over the years. Often I listened to audio books by T.D jakes to get this boost.
This quick 20 minute session can greatly help you to shift your self-doubts into optimism and into thinking constructively about your challenges.
7. See a setback as temporary.
When you have a setback on a similar matter to what you are trying to attempt, it is only normal to start doubting yourself and what you do.
To start seeing this current setback as something that will simply be your new normal.
This way of looking at things can trap you in thinking that there’s no point in continuing to take action.
• Remember: You are not a failure just because you failed. Another favourite quote of mine is that of Albert Einstein ‘’a person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. ’Setbacks happen to everyone who take chances. It is simply a part of living life fully. Sometimes things go well and sometimes they don’t.
• Ask yourself: what is one thing I can learn from this setback? That the positives out of every mistake or failure and use it to your advantage the next time you attempt that same thing.
8. Remember: You can course-correct along the way.
A quote from one of the blogs I follow once stated that “it is better to take action, get it all wrong and then course-correct that to sit idle doing nothing’’
If you do this, you take your mind off ‘’what could’ve and should’ve been’’ to ‘’what is’’
Trying to plan every move you will make on a journey towards a goal or dream can be draining and lead to quite a bit of self-doubt.
A plane from London going to Amsterdam 95% of the time, it takes off on the wrong foot owing to the fact that the land condition and climate has its effect, yet the pilot navigates through in order to get to its destination knowing fully well that it isn’t possible to fly perfectly straight lines that are on the flight plan, so it’s his job to take detours and reroute all the way knowing that it’s his final destination that matters and the same can be said for an entrepreneurs who wants to overcome self-doubt.
And remember that you can always course-correct along the way towards what you want. Remember as an entrepreneur, where others see obstacles, we see opportunities!
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Oladipupo Ajibola, popularly known as Dipo is a guy who is MAD( Making A Difference)
He is a 20 year old writer, entrepreneur and creator of dipsentrepreneurship.com. To know more about him and read his articles, simply visit his blog at www.dipsentrepreneurship.com
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